Most of the people I see for coaching want to make changes that seem enormous to them, and therefore almost impossible to imagine accomplishing. And yet, there is a drive, a dream, a desire inside them pushing to be heard and acknowledged. So they come for the support coaching offers in opening the dream.
Which is great! But one of the big, often-unacknowledged steps in manifesting new, large desires, is exploring your attitudes towards how you live your life-- the habits you acquired that keep you stuck and unable to move forward.
The coaching exercise, “Perspectives,” is often used to help people explore different choices or options they can make. However, I also use it to support clients in investigating the nature of certain attitudes or habits.
For example, Matt, a soft-spoken man in his 40’s who wants to set up a family-run business after years feeling stultified as a corporate manager, wanted to explore his attitude towards “working outside the box.” The perspectives he chose to “inhabit” were “The Critic,” “Mountain Climber,” “10-Year-Old,” and “Dolphin.” As I guided him through each perspective, I encouraged him to stand in different places, close his eyes, breathe, feel the sensations in his body, and visualize his internal energy level and “environment.”
Exploring each perspective in this way guided him to choose the perspective of “Dolphin” for its playful feeling combined with a purposeful way of interaction with its pod or family for the good of all. He was amazed at how he could really feel the contracted body sensations of his internal “critical” attitude about working outside a corporate structure-- as well as the expansive sensation in his breathing and belly with “Dolphin.”
He realized that his new “Dolphin” attitude gave him energy for taking action on his dream, though he was scared of working outside the relative haven of the corporate “box.” The “Dolphin” perspective supported both the purposefulness he feels in his commitment to his family, and felt good, physically and emotionally-- excellent intuitive reasons for his new choice!
JOIN IN THE CONVERSATION!
* What’s your attitude towards making a change you really want in your work or lifestyle?
* Does this attitude support your going forward and making this change?
* What’s an image that helps you get unstuck from an attitude that’s no longer helpful to you?