I’m feeling so energized from the tele-class I presented earlier today--
“Creating Life Satisfaction-- Giving an A to Possibilities”!, which was based on the inspiring book, The Art of Possibility by Roz and Ben Zander. A wonderful group of people joined the class who stepped forward and shared their own experiences about what’s involved in creating relationships that lead to fulfillment at work, at home, and overall in their lives. We also experienced what it is to create-- in the moment, with each other-- ways of relating that are positive and lead to satisfying outcomes.
One woman shared her story about the mutually supportive and expansive relationship she’s had with her current boss. What made this possible is each of them finding ways to reach out to each other-- being open to what each other has to offer, and also finding ways to express appreciation for the work they do together. This woman particularly admired the way her boss fully supports her and has helped her move ahead professionally.
I was intrigued, as always, with how much more you get from a topic when you explore it with others. For example, I had researched and planned this tele-class and was fully aware of its content. However, as some of the participants were talking, I realized that there was a very important quality to creating dynamic relationships that I had assumed but not articulated: that is, the people involved must have the intention to make them positive and rewarding. Relationships that add value to your life engage you actively.
Continuing this theme, we explored what it means to use your intuition in designing quality relationships that show appreciation of each other and lead to satisfying outcomes. Some great tips that came up were: 1) really listen to the other person; 2) assume that the other person is able to do whatever they really want; 3) ask if the other person wants advice-- help him stay empowered; 4) be curious and sensitive about the other person’s feelings-- notice when you may need to ask further questions; 5) anticipate the needs of the other person; and 6) assume that everyone wants to make a contribution-- so help open the way for that to happen in your relationships.
At the end of the class, we mutually agreed about the value of taking time out to look at what is deep and nourishing for ourselves in building relationships that matter. As we look for how another person wants to be acknowledged and given space to open her heart and life, we open our own heart and life too. In reaching out to others, we receive the gift of other points of view that expand and enrich our own.
“When we give an A, we can be open to a perspective different from our own. For after all, it is only to a person to whom you have granted an A that you will really listen....” (The Art of Possibility)
Join in the Discussion!
- How do you use your intuition in building quality relationships?
- How do you actively show up and engage with others?
- In what way have you been empowered by someone reaching out to you in a caring and interested way?