At one point today during my tele-class, Career & Life Transitions-- Am I in One? What Do I Do Now?, I talked about the value there can be in endings, even when you didn’t choose to end something (a job, a relationship, etc.). One participant said that was true for him, since he’d recently been fired from a position that he felt he’d outgrown, but couldn’t make himself leave because of his salary. However, when the choice was taken out of his hands, he felt far more relief and a sense of possibilities than loss. Losing his job had the effect of making him see more clearly what he really wanted to be doing.
How do you know when a change is presenting you with a richer opportunity for growing your life? At the beginning of the illuminating book, The Art of Possibility by Rosamund Stone Zander and Benjamin Zander, is a fascinating example of how attitude can affect sales potential:
A shoe factory sends two marketing scouts to a region of Africa to study the prospects for expanding business. One sends back a telegram saying, “SITUATION HOPELESS STOP NO ONE WEARS SHOES
The other writes back triumphantly, GLORIOUS BUSINESS OPPORTUNITY STOP THEY HAVE NO SHOES
Who’s right? Both are. But whose perspective captures the greater sense of potential? Who would you want on your sales team, in your office, in your life? In my experience as a coach and an evolving person, I find that the more you say “yes!” to new opportunities, the more they come your way and offer what you need to grow and feel successful at work and in your life as a whole.
Join in the Discussion!
- What kind of opportunities have opened up for you during times of change?
- What have you said “yes!” to recently that created a positive outcome in your life?
- Think of someone you feel has a deeply satisfying life. Does he or she tend to have a positive attitude towards possibilities that arise?